Chemistry & Demisexuality…

Per Urban Dictionary: Demisexuals are characterized by a lack of sexual attraction toward any person unless they become deeply emotionally or romantically connected with a specific person or persons. The level of connection it takes for sexual desire to form is dependent on how close the relationship is rather than initial attraction.

Per Dictionary.com: Chemistry is the interaction of one personality with another.

This is quite possibly the most intriguing topic I’ve written about. You see, I just discovered that demisexuals exist and learned the meaning. I recently had a conversation with someone about how great sex is due to waiting for someone you love. Even if you don’t realize you’re waiting for the person. The example they provided was waiting until marriage to make love to the person. There is something overpowering about having sex with a person that you are deeply in love with first. Do you think that changes the reactions afterwards? Does it enhance the feeling forever or temporarily? Is the chemistry downplayed until the big moment?

The tricky part is that you have a greater chance of being hurt due to your emotional investment. I’m definitely not the authority on this topic. I love completely, not forever, but completely. I use to think that I loved forever. People have the ability to change you when you least expect it. I’ve learned so much from those around me recently. We all have if we just pay attention and follow the unspoken words and the signs. Oddly enough, love has a control switch. Not exactly the love, but the responses because of it. I use to believe that there were some people that I would love unconditionally, that’s another topic for another day. You can’t control who you love or certain circumstances, but you can control you. Preserving love making…

I read a quote about how awesome it is to have chemistry but timing being the biggest bitch, true or false? I have a theory on both. Maybe the timing was distinct because it should never occur. Chemistry is a powerful, electrifying thrill of a feeling. Magnetic if you will. The funny thing is that, a moment, a word, a thought or reaction can alter how you feel about the person. With or without the attraction when you least expect it. Once you cross the sexual threshold you have expectations. Whether you realize this initially or not. These expectations will teach you to ask the necessary questions to receive the answers you require. Silence is golden, so if you never receive an answer, follow the wind. Don’t savor moments too long, they won’t do you any good. Understand and learn from that passion, from that place. Most importantly be honest with yourself, even if they are not capable of being honest with you. Don’t spend too much time being hung up on chemistry.  If demisexuality and chemistry are combined, you may have something once the timing is right.