Do you decide you’re in love from the moment you lock eyes? Is it the conversation? The energy? The first kiss? That moment of sexual intercourse?
Does it feel like a cool breeze on a summers night? Like a glass of water when you’re parched? A warm bath after a long day?
That feeling when he’s not just on your mind but in your mind. He’s in your soul and he nurtures it. His words are filling and affirming to the heart. His touch is like silk or satin on the skin. His kiss is liquid gold but his lips are pillows. His hands are strong with a body that’s sculpted. His whispers make you purrr literally and figuratively. He increases the secretions on every level. The way he speaks and teaches and supports and listens and… Makes. You. Bite. Your. Lip, at the thought of him. All of this without actually having sex? This man is different. He is healing when speaking of healing in a physical form. What is the temperature in a room of passion with high self control?
How do you know it’s love? His whispers in your ear… down your spine… down your thighs… Up. Your. Thigh. He’s sensational, but is it love? And does he really exist?
Sex is only 50% of the relationship when its bad or barely existent.
Why are people having unsatisfied sex? Why are they silent about that fact? Why do some women not know what great, wall climbing, back scratching sex is? Why is it a chore and not a pleasure?
This is geared towards the people in relationships and marriages, not so much as the single people. Single people still have the capability to have a different partner and resume new lust and fresh passion. You know who you are, even if you’re in denial. Men, I know you have heard the saying that a woman’s sex drive is tied to her emotions. Understand that for many, they are, doesn’t mean you will never get some. Just keep in mind that your sex lives in previous relationships are completely and utterly IRRELEVANT. Men and women have heard the saying that men are physical and don’t necessarily combined sex with emotion. It’s physical. However, when you’re in a relationship for many years, you can’t just hop on her and expect her to be ready. Some women need the car warmed up. But ladies, you don’t always have a headache (sex can help that though) and every time won’t be romantic. That doesn’t mean it can’t be great. No one should roll their eyes during sex because they are bored.
First things first: know your mate!!!!!!!
1. Talk to your partner. If the sex isn’t good it is the fault of both individuals. Communication is just as important in the bedroom as it is outside of the bedroom. Don’t be afraid to share who you are sexually with your partner. Closed mouths to get fed. And be open to change.
2. Explore. How is your man suppose to now know how to please you, if you don’t. Case closed. Men how is she suppose to know if your not telling her, she’s not the ex or the ones before her.
3. Be confident in your abilities whether you are a man or woman. Never be to cocky in a relationship because what worked on or with someone else may not work with this partner.
4. I have said this a thousand times. Take a trip to a toy store with your mate. If you’re married and want to be for the next 40-50 years, you should both be satisfied.
5. The two of you should decide what “normal” is. Never let anyone else determine the rules of your relationship. Create your own norms that satisfy you both!
All in all it’s a partnership. Don’t say anything that you wouldn’t want said to you. It can be a delicate discussion. My motto is that you should have a rewarding sex life, not a chore list. A sex bucket list is sexy though!
It’s alright if you require sex therapy but always, always try to work within your reach a push a bit past it. The two of you know each other best. Pay attention to when your mate is sexually frustrated. Everything that seems as if it is about sex, may actually be an underlying issue. Hence….communication is key!
Have fun and try something exciting tonight! Until next time lovers!! 🙂
I was watching divorce court one day and each person was saying “I still love him/her, but I want out”! So my question is, what makes the marriage last? In my opinion, it is the friendship. No matter how much you love your mate, you must be their friend first. A marriage can not blissfully succeed without it. My reason is simple…. Your friends are easily forgiven. They may lie to you or even talk behind your back, but somehow you say it’s ok and are friends once again. If at some point your spouse disagrees with you or tells you a white lie, oh it’s over!!! Call the lawyers and divide this stuff up!
So often do people say, Why can he/she not talk to me, the way they are so open with their friends. Well, why not open the door. First, leave the judgement, criticism, and snarky comments at the door. Your spouse wants a friend, not a tyrant, judge or jury. It’s never to late unless the proceedings have begun, but even then you never know. Marriages and relationships are on a rapid decline, when the vows were said, they were said with forever on mind. Now if it is most definitely a done deal , so be it! Just consider how you would want to be forgiven or how you interact with your friends.
Do opposites really attract??
I often hear people say opposites attract, but I wonder for how long. In the beginning people love what seems opposite to them, but after a couple of years things may greatly fizzle.
Example 1: you love how calm she is and the fact that she stays home to wait for you. On the other hand, you’re a social butterfly and the honeymoon phase is over. You want to do something, anything except stay home!! Now you’re second guessing if this is the right one for you because you compromised your wants. You understand compromise, but when does that become complete sacrifice.
Example 2: He is a ton of fun, but a little sarcastic. Not dumb, but could use a peep at current events. You’re the intellectual type, but he keeps you smiling. That was fun at first, but now you want to have stimulating conversation and that is a no go because of his lack there of.
Just an observation but do people become bored with what is consider the opposite?
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Ever try to do a strip tease or really wanted to, but didn’t want to be embarrassed? Well first thing first, men just enjoy the thought of knowing that you won’t be wearing clothes long 🙂 Just a few tips on some spicy techniques to add to your routine. Set the video camera up first!!!!
1. Make sure he is seated in the middle of the room.
2. Try a business suit. No shirt underneth, just a bra, no panties. Make sure the breast are sitting up nicely and button the jacket. (There is something enticing about a woman in a business suit).
3. Very high heels. (Heels accentuate the legs and buttocks).
4. Sexy music. (choose music that your man enjoys, he will love it). Something you can groove to!
5. Make sure you smell tasty.
6. Go slow and start from across the room. Keep heels on at all times. Bottoms (hopefully a skirt, not pants) will come off first.
7. Stand in front of his chair and use any leg to place your foot in his chair. Bend over towards him, kiss him. Tease each lip with soft kisses and gently suck. Step back down, turn around, give him a little lap dance. Pop back up really slow and sexy, with your butt near his face and pull the skirt down slowly, tease a little. All that’s left are the jacket, heels, and panties. What happens next is up to you!! Enjoy!!
If you’ve ever said the words “I’m in love with you” you completely understand where I am headed with this post. I feel like the people that met the love of their life at a young age, got married and are happy (what I call “one lovers”), are lucky. Not because they have been together forever, but because they have only been in love with one person. As a woman, it is difficult, damn near impossible to shake a person you’ve loved, been in love with and shared yourself with on an intimate level. The reason I say that the “one lovers” are lucky is because they don’t have the feel the pull of love. Just a thought…
If you are in a relationship/marriage for anything past 3 years, are you having sex to keep them away from someone else or do you really enjoy it? Does quality or quantity matter? In a recent discussion I have asked several couples that have been together for years, which makes the biggest difference, quality or quantity? I’ve heard ” we have sex weekly but I do it as a chore so I’m not really into it”, once a month if I feel like it and he better not cheat”, it may not always be weekly but it’s always very good”, ” I don’t do anything unless it’s very good, no questions asked”.
Many couples have very tailored sex lives, but I have heard ” it’s a chore”, quite a few times. I wonder why that is. Sex as a chore as a means to keep someone from cheating is just as bad as not doing it at all. Simply because the other person knows and can feel that you are not into it and that lack of intimacy can drive them in another directions. Just keep in mind, whenever you do it, no matter how, put your heart and soul in it!!!
Valentines day in and of itself can be called a gimmick for the card and chocolate companies. Yes, I can agree to that. Yes, we could also go into the Valentines Day massacre, but that is not what is being celebrated.
Any day that allows you to show your loved one how much you love them, really matters. I know, I know, some of you are thinking “you should show them everyday”, your right. That also means that a birthday should be a everyday occasion since the gift of life is to be celebrated and tomorrow is never promised. Bottom line, people have very busy lives and at times they may not have time to gush all over their person, that doesn’t mean they love them less. Even if you are single with children, take them to dinner or have a picnic at home with them, their your loved ones too. If you are single with no kids, go out to a party, there are plenty of them 🙂 Valentines day gives you that special set aside day to really focus on only them. And besides, its a ton of fun. Lighten up and enjoy it!! Make it a bi monthly thing to have your own Valentines day. So, take out the cards and candy and focus on the love. When you have it, it makes the day even more special. Valentines Day is what you make, but try not to spoil for the others that enjoy it. Love to be loved and smile!
BTWN LVRS: Changing The Narrative 