Do you decide you’re in love from the moment you lock eyes? Is it the conversation? The energy? The first kiss? That moment of sexual intercourse?
Does it feel like a cool breeze on a summers night? Like a glass of water when you’re parched? A warm bath after a long day?
That feeling when he’s not just on your mind but in your mind. He’s in your soul and he nurtures it. His words are filling and affirming to the heart. His touch is like silk or satin on the skin. His kiss is liquid gold but his lips are pillows. His hands are strong with a body that’s sculpted. His whispers make you purrr literally and figuratively. He increases the secretions on every level. The way he speaks and teaches and supports and listens and… Makes. You. Bite. Your. Lip, at the thought of him. All of this without actually having sex? This man is different. He is healing when speaking of healing in a physical form. What is the temperature in a room of passion with high self control?
How do you know it’s love? His whispers in your ear… down your spine… down your thighs… Up. Your. Thigh. He’s sensational, but is it love? And does he really exist?
The most confusing parts about love, is being in it by yourself and freeing yourself to allow it. That moment when you realize that you’ve fallen in the deep end with no life jacket. How does the other person feel? Do they feel territorial, is it self preservation or love? You have no real idea. You’re a lover by nature, but not easy to trust and give your heart. So when you do, it’s pretty authentic. Your natural empathic abilities lead you to care deeply for many but only truly love a few. You had no plans of falling, but isn’t that how life works? Loving freely can be a catch 22 for those that have control issues. You have this constant urge to take it back but it’s already out there. The ultimate level of vulnerability. It says that not only have you allowed yourself to give of yourself freely, but you’ve given up controlling what life says should be freed. Love.
Why must we complicate it? Either you do or you don’t, right? Ha!! Complication is the human way! How do you even know when someone truly loves you? Does it matter if it’s one-sided? What about love languages? Is it the verbiage of “I love you”? The way they act? Which means more to you? Does not knowing make you feel deflated? Lessen your love? Wish you could rewind and erase it?
I often wonder why so many people are afraid of loving or speaking in love. Is it because of the possibility of being hurt? Unrequited love? Their past lovers? Childhood? Loving too soon? Isn’t that a testament to the other person? I’m a firm believer that you get one chance at this life. Even if reincarnation, recycling of souls or any variation of such actually occurs, you won’t know. Therefore, we get this one shot. Stop being so afraid of loving people. Living is about loving. I know, I know, loving without being loved back sucks ass! Trust me, I know. The heart wants what the heart wants. When it’s not returned, it kind of creates that sick feeling in the pit of your stomach and you just want to run away (see, told you I understand)! That doesn’t mean that closing yourself off is the healthy option. It’s not! That’s their issue to address in life, not yours. Be willing to walk that walk of love with them, but only if you know it’s what they want as well. Never force love. Love is the easy part. If you’re not sure, take a few steps back to reassess. Give your heart a break. Give them the space they may need. Be open and honest with both your words and your actions. Sometimes you must let that person go to remain the loving being that you are. Someone will come along and thrive on that love, but you must be open and willing.
If you’re the person on the opposite end of the lover, consider their feelings and adjust accordingly. Sometimes that involves letting them go because you can’t be what they need. Life’s too short for anything else.
The subtle looks, the gentle kisses, the long hugs, their scent, the soft touches….
Human touch is the most amazing feeling in the world. When you have an indescribable connection with another person, it is energizing. Yet, there is something much deeper for some people. Connections, energy, bonds… soul ties. The most unique thing is their ability to activate your other senses prior to touching you. The moment they walk in the door, you follow them with your eyes. A simple message. A photo. Their voice makes you smile. Their scent fills the room, it’s erotic and drives you crazy. The kiss of their soft lips. Their hands on any part of your body is enough to make your knees weak. The mere thought of them. If you’re lucky, and their scent lingers on your clothes, you close your eyes and reminisce when they are not around.
This person has this effect no matter where they are. Whether it’s been hours, days, months or years, their effect has staying power. I have to imagine that their souls or spirits have bonded in such a way that they have become inseparable. How else can you explain people being apart for 15, 20, 30 or 40 years and suddenly they find themselves together again. Not just together but intertwined as if not a moment has passed between them. There’s an energy that slowly pulled them back together when they themselves never saw it coming. It’s cute, intriguing, endearing and some may be envious of a connection that deep because it’s rare in a time when separation is popular. A soul tie. A tie so deep that your physical shell can’t deny it even when it tries. That type of tie is interlaced with love, passion, excitement, lust, and anxiety. The Yin to your Yang that you may not have ever believed in until now. Your wavelengths are the same without you being consciously aware. You may supplement other relationships trying to retain that same feeling but they truly are one in a million. A magnificent unicorn. It’s hard to believe that these types of people exists. Hopefully the universe has deemed you lucky enough to not only have met this person but to have them in your life in a permanent capacity. Because the thing is, this person also brings you balance. A clairvoyant way of knowing what to say and what you need, even when you don’t. They make your life easier and soothe you with their words and even more so with their presence.
They are not perfect, they are your ocean. Deep and calming. Your quiet place of peace. To simplify it as Love, is to diminish its power a bit. It’s deeper and if it exists in your life, I don’t need to explain any further.
Be well. Be loved. And live this life like there’s no tomorrow because one day there won’t be.